What do you do when life isn’t going your way or you’re feeling unhappy?

It’s easy to blame your circumstances, your past, and lots of other things that are out of your control for your unhappiness. Yeah okay, you don’t have any choice in where you were born. You didn’t get to choose your family. You don’t choose the bad things that happened to you.

But you know what?

It’s your fault.

I think that was too harsh. Let me rephrase. It’s your responsibility.

Things happen. Shit happens. Maybe it’s random. Maybe it’s a result of your past decisions. Regardless, you choose what to do with it. You might not have caused the situation, but you’re responsible for it. You’re responsible for your feelings. You are responsible for the way your life has turned out.

Your life affects you the most. So why do you not think it requires the most effort for you? You are the only one who should be held accountable.

You can look at it one of two ways.

Option A. It sucks to be you. Poor, unfortunate you. Why does the world hate you? It feels good to blame everything else. That’s your choice. You are choosing to be powerless. What’s worse, things won’t change or get better if you don’t think you are responsible for it.

Option B. I am responsible for creating the life I want. You didn’t choose for horrible things to happen. Maybe things done with good intentions backfired. But you are the only one responsible for getting it back on track.

Your choice.

Take inspiration from the iconic Spiderman. We have three different versions to digest how we can take charge of our lives. Hopefully, one of them resonates with you.

“With great power comes great responsibility.”

“With great power, there must also come great responsibility.”

“When you take on the responsibility, great powers will come.”